One of the hardest things for me is never seeming to
get on top of things. There is always something needs
doing and I never get to concentrate on one task for
more than 5 minutes, make that 2 minutes, before I’m
distracted. I worry about what I spend, I worry about
our mortgage, what will happen to the kids if I wasn’t
around, what would happen to all of us if dad wasn’t
here, what I’d do if my parents get sick (they
are in the UK, so the logistics get complicated). And
these are just some of the things in the back of my
What I’ve found is the best way to stop some
of these worries, is to prioritise them and where possible,
The main problem with doing this is actually finding
the time to sit down and do it.
There are plenty of tools out there that can help make
the process easier and here’s a few tips for getting
Enlist the help of your partner, or a friend in the
same situation, or your mum - basically someone who
understands and wants to help. They may need to do the
same thing so you can work together, or they may just
be there as a sounding board. Someone to check in and
see how you're going.
Make a list of what you need to do and set aside just
an hour or two each week, perhaps an evening or weekend,
when your partner can take the kids for a couple of
Prioritise and address one thing at a time.
Some of the practical areas you might need to address
With most of these items, once you have done the work
to set things up, they don't need to be revisited very
often. You will know you have some control in your life,
you can be confident you are protected as best you can
going forward and you can be sure you know your entitlements.